By Jamie Milne, JMT director
Have you heard the saying you are what you eat?
I believe you are what you think.
See your personality (Personal – reality) is like a pair of glasses.
It’s the lens in which we view the world and a part of the filtering system in which we perceive and make decisions in the world.
The incurable optimistic sees life through rose tinted glasses, we all have that friend? Everything is Fluffy ducks, puppy dogs, mung beans, yoga and nothing upsets them, not even cold Chai.
This is polarised, subjective, not achievable long term.
And then we have grizzle guts, the pouting pessimist who squints through dark gloomy glasses ‘Stinking thinking’ no matter the sunshine they complain about sunburn and the ozone layer.
Also polarised, subjective, and not sustainable long term.
Both individuals can observe the same event and see it in two very different lights, having an inability to be neutral, objective, see the benefits and opportunities, setbacks and drawbacks of any said event.
See our thinking directly influences our feelings/ emotions, which immediately determine how we act, talk, respond or react.
Einstein was famous for his statement “There is no such thing as good or bad, thinking makes it so.”
Here is a short exercise, to establish ‘objectivity’ in your perception, synthesis the ‘glasses’ you wear not polarise.
Doing this exercise will give you more resilience, empathy, energy, and dissolve a lot of resentment, negative emotions and frustrations.
When you encounter a negative event, or setback, drawback, or experience negative emotions with valence ( emotional charge ) hold yourself accountable to find at least 30-50 benefits, opportunities or positives, write these down, on your phone, or in a journal.
Alternatively if you encounter a positive event, look to find balance for finding the setbacks, drawbacks in that particular opportunity.
Avoid the pride before the fall.
Synthesis don’t polarise!
